Monthly Archives: January 2007


Today is my last day in Milan, Italy. One week in Milan is enough for me. I have seen many duomo “church” especially at piazza duomo.  One halal kebab near to Centrale F.S – firmata stazio.

I stay at Romana Residense which cost me about 165 Euro per night. Live is quite boring here in Milan and everthing here is related to fashion. Even young kids wear D & G – Dolce & Gabana. I’ll put more pictures about Milan here.

Collection of Motivation and Self Help Audiobooks

Collection of Motivation and Self Help Audiobooks
15 Audiobooks MP3 1GB

1. Unlimited Power – Anthony Robbins
Unlimited Power by Anthony Robbins is about success…. period. Whether it is success in your marriage, finances, professional career, relationships… everything is covered in this book.

2. The One Minute Millionaire – Mark Victor Hansen
One Minute Millionaire is not about “get rich quick”, it’s about get rich. Mark Victor Hansen is the best selling author in the personal wealth space, he has helped tens of millions of people obtain a path to wealth, and now he has put together the most detailed road map yet through this exclusive program.
3. The Power to Shape your Destiny – Anthony Robbins
Have you noticed sometimes you can perform at your best and still fall just short of your goal? Now, Anthony Robbins will show you how to utilize a quality you already possess so you can achieve that goal.

4. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People – Stephen R. Covey
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change was a groundbreaker when it was first published in 1990, and it continues to be a business bestseller with more than 10 million copies sold. Stephen Covey, an internationally respected leadership authority, realizes that true success encompasses a balance of personal and professional effectiveness, so this book is a manual for performing better in both arenas.

5. The Magic of Thinking Big – David Schwartz
Millions of people throughout the world have improved their lives using The Magic of Thinking Big. Dr. David J. Schwartz, long regarded as one of the foremost experts on motivation, will help you sell better, manage better, earn more money, and — most important of all — find greater hapiness and peace of mind.

6. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus – Dr. John Gray
A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships. Dr. John Gray explains how differences can come between the sexes and prohibit mutually fulfilling, loving relationships.

7. 101 Secrets of Highly Effective Speakers – Caryl Rae Krannich
Most people fear giving a speech more than any other situation they encounter—in fact, public speaking ranks #1, even out-ranking death. Reluctance to getting up in front of an audience is often a major impediment to career advancement. Indeed, each year thousands of people turn down promotions because a new position would require giving speeches to bosses, co-workers, or clients.

8. Conversation Power – James K. Van Fleet
Master the Language of Success! You have just taken the first step to learning the “master skills of self-expression.” Renowned communications expert James K. Van Fleet will guide you through the most effective verbal communication strategies available for business, public speaking, employee relations, meetings, family, sales and even romantic encounters.

9. How To Read A Person Like A Book – Gerard Nierenberg
Decipher the unspoken vocabulary of body language. A tilt of the head, the crossing of legs, the buttoning and unbuttoning of a jacket, and other gestures can speak volumes about what a person is thinking or feeling. By learning to spot hidden emotional, social, and sexual messages, you can tell how a person is reacting to you, respond appropriately, and influence the outcome of any situation.

10. The Dilbert Principle – Scott Adams
You loved the comic strip; now read the business advice. Or should that be anti-business advice? Scott Adams provides the hapless victim of re-engineering, rightsizing and Total Quality Management some strategies for fighting back, er, coping. Forced to work long hours, with no hope of a raise? Adams offers tips on maintaining parity in compensation. Along the way, Adams explains what ISO 9000 really is and assesses the irresistibility of female engineers.

11. Who Moved My Cheese? – Dr. Johnson
Change can be a blessing or a curse, depending on your perspective. The message of Who Moved My Cheese? is that all can come to see it as a blessing, if they understand the nature of cheese and the role it plays in their lives.

12. Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ – Daniel Goleman
There was a time when IQ was considered the leading determinant of success. In this fascinating book, based on brain and behavioral research, Daniel Goleman argues that our IQ-idolizing view of intelligence is far too narrow. Instead, Goleman makes the case for “emotional intelligence” being the strongest indicator of human success. He defines emotional intelligence in terms of self-awareness, altruism, personal motivation, empathy, and the ability to love and be loved by friends, partners, and family members.

13. Motivation Power (Audiobook Hypnosis) – Paul Mckenna
Motivation Power contains Paul McKenna’s very latest and most powerful hypnotic techniques to help energise you life. As soon as you start listening to the trance section you will being to notice a dynamic increase in your enthusiasm. ‘Motivation Power’ will give you the drive to do the things you really want to do!

14. The 10 Natural Laws of Successful Time and Life Management – Hyrum W. Smith
Smith is CEO of Franklin Quest, a company that conducts time-management seminars for corporations, organizations, and government agencies, reaching as many as 20,000 persons per month. It also sells day-planner scheduling books as an integral part of the time-management system it touts. This highly successful company was founded by Smith a little more than 10 years ago and was modeled on the self-improvement system outlined in Benjamin Franklin’s autobiography.

15. The 21 Success Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires – Brian Tracy
Over 2 million people have heard Brian Tracy speak and more than 1.5 million have purchased his audio and video programs The 21 Success Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires shows how anyone, no matter what their station in life at this moment, can become a millionaire. The advice in this booklet is based on Brian Tracy’s decades of careful analysis of the habits and practices of hundreds of self-made millionaires.

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Read only if you have time for ALLAH

Read only if you have time for ALLAH
Let me tell you, make sure you read all the way to the bottom. I almost deleted this email but I was blessed when I got to the end 

ALLAH , when I received this e-mail, I thought…
I don’t have time for this… And, this is really inappropriate during work.  

Then, I realized that this kind of thinking is… Exactly, what has caused lot of the problems in our world today.  

We try to keep ALLAH in MASJIDS on FRIDAY…

Maybe, FRIDAY night…  

And, the unlikely event of a MAGHRIB SALLAH .  

We do like to have Him around during sickness…  

And, of course, at funerals.  

However, we don’t have time, or room, for Him during work or play…  

Because.. That’s the part of our lives we think… We can, and should, handle on our own.  

May ALLAH forgive me for ever thinking…  

That… there is a time or place where..  

HE is not to be FIRST in my life.  

We should always have time to remember all HE has done for us.  


Pass this on ONLY IF YOU MEAN IT!!  

Yes, I do Love ALLAH .  

HE is my source of existence and Savior.  

He keeps me functioning each and every day. Without Him, I will be nothing.

This is the simplest test.  

If You Love ALLAH … And, are not ashamed of all the marvelous things HE has done for you…

Send this to ten people and the person who sent it to you!  
Now do you have the time to pass it on?  

Make sure that you scroll through to the end.  

Easy vs. Hard  

Why is it so hard to tell the truth but Yet so easy to tell a lie?  

Why are we so sleepy in THE MASJID but Right when the sermon is over we suddenly wake up?  

Why is it so easy to delete a HOLY e-mail, but yet we forward all of the nasty ones?  

Of all the free gifts we may receive, Prayer is the very best one….  

There are no costs, but wonderful rewards… 

Notes: Isn’t it funny how simple it is for people to NOT BELIEVE IN ALLAH and then wonder why the world’s going to hell.

Isn’t it funny how someone can say “I believe in ALLAH ” but still follow Satan (who, by the way, also “believes” in ALLAH ).  

Isn’t it funny how you can send a thousand jokes through e-mail and they spread like wildfire, but when you start sending messages regarding ISLAM , people think twice about sharing?

Isn’t it funny how when you go to forward this message, you will not send it to many on your address list because you’re not sure what they believe, or what they will think of you for sending it to them.  

Isn’t it funny how I can be more worried about what other people think of me than what ALLAH thinks of me.  

I MAKE DOA , for everyone who sends this to their entire address book, they will be blessed by ALLAH in a way special for them.  

And send it back to the person who sent it, to let them know that indeed it was sent out to many more.


If you have correct goals,
and you keep pursuing them the best way you know how,
everything else will fall into line.
If you do the right thing right,
you’re going to succeed.

You are what and where you are today
because you first imagined it.
Knowing where you want to go is all you need to get there.

Just return over and over to that picture in your mind
of the place you are headed for.

The first essential element of success is to know what you want.


To Get Ahead, Use Your Head

by Harvey Mackay

I’m the last person in the world who would tell you not to work hard. I’m also the first one to remind you that working hard must also be tempered by working smart, or you might just be wasting a load of effort. There is a reason why we were born with both muscles and brains.

Consider the story of two lumberjacks in a tree-cutting contest. Both were strong and determined, hoping to win the prize. But one was hardworking and ambitious, chopping down every tree in his path at the fastest pace possible, while the other appeared to be a little more laid back, methodically felling trees and pacing himself. The go-getter worked all day, skipping his lunch break, expecting that his superior effort would be rewarded. His opponent, however, took an hour-long lunch, then resumed his steady pace.

In the end, the eager beaver was dismayed to lose to his “lazier” competition. Thinking he deserved to win after his hard work, he finally approached his opponent and said, “I just don’t understand. I worked longer and harder than you, and went hungry to get ahead. You took a break, and yet you still won. It just doesn’t seem fair. Where did I go wrong?” The winner responded, “While I was taking my lunch break, I was sharpening my ax.”

Hard work will always pay off; smart work will pay better. Remember back in college, there were the kids who studied all day and all night, but still struggled to pass exams? Then there were the kids who studied hard but also found time for a game of cards or basketball, and still aced every test.

Both groups studied the same material, attended the same lectures taught by the same professors, and took the same test. Was the second group just that much more brilliant? Maybe, but my money’s on the way they approached their material and learned how to study. If they were smart, they applied those same principles after graduation: work hard, but work smart.

That’s a lesson that can be learned by even young children. A little girl visiting a watermelon farm asked the farmer how much a large watermelon cost. “Three dollars,” he told her. “But I only have thirty cents,” the little girl said. The farmer looked around his field, and feeling sorry for the little girl, pointed at a small watermelon and said, “That one’s thirty cents.” “Oh good,” she replied as she paid him, “Just leave it on the vine and I’ll be back in a month to get it.”

Call it creativity, call it ingenuity, call it whatever: I call it using your head. Knowing how to analyze a situation and how to execute an action plan will put you ahead of the game in the long run.

There’s nothing wrong with having a leg up on your competition – it’s how you win. The combination of hard work and smart work is the formula for success. Think about what needs to be done, and then think again about the best way to accomplish it – not necessarily the way you’ve always done it, or the fastest way, and certainly not the hardest way. Never make work harder than it has to be. That’s just a colossal waste of time.

Perhaps the ingenuity award goes to the fellow who came to the Canadian border on his motorcycle, carrying two saddlebags strapped across his seat. The border guards asked the obvious question, “What’s in your saddlebags?” “Rocks,” was the reply. So the guards emptied the bags to check out his story. Sure enough, all they found were rocks. So they sent him on his way. The next week, the same fellow came to the crossing, again on a motorcycle, again with the same payload. The guards checked once again, and found more rocks. Off he went.

The scene repeated itself weekly for several months, until finally the guards couldn’t stand it any longer. “We know you are smuggling something across the border, but every time we inspect your saddlebags we find only rocks. Please tell us what you are up to, and we promise not to turn you in.” “Well,” the fellow replied, “It’s really very simple. I’m smuggling stolen motorcycles.”

Mackay’s Moral: It’s good to work hard. It’s great to work smart. But it’s best to work hard and smart.


Aries Employee Profile (march 21 – april 19)

Aries employees make excellent troubleshooters.They’ll usually want to be out in the field at a variety of different work sites fixing things. They certainly won’t be happy for very long behind a desk in a 9 to 5 schedule. The bored Aries employee who has been forced into a square hole will typically be restless, angry, and careless with details. No amount of money would compensate for being stuck in a routine job. Money in fact isn’t why they are working at all. They do want to be paid fairly and need a status position to satisfy their competitive tendencies–but even more importantly, they’ll want challenging new projects They typically like to have a sense of responsibility and need to feel needed. In return, they’ll give their all and provide detailed, consistent work. They will literally work themselves to exhaustion to prove themselves. If you want to keep your Aries co- worker productive and happy, you’ll want to give them the opportunity to work independently or let them help and lead less experienced workers. Taurus Employee Profile (april 20 – may 20)Taureans make some of the best employees. They are loyal, hardworking, and no-nonsense. They work methodically and follow projects through until they are complete.Some may appear to work a little too slowly-usually because they are so careful-but they will always finish what they start.

They thrive on structure, schedules, and routine. You’ll find them doing the same exact thing at the same time every day.

Taureans, however, are not exactly the malleable workers that they often appear to be.

If they have to work in a chaotic environment, they won’t be happy and will be prone to child-like temper tantrums and stubbornness. They might react similarly if they have to work around ignorant people or at a job where there is no obvious potential for advancement. Taureans will be very unhappy if there isn’t a ladder for them to climb. Even in the worst situations, they will find a way to advance slowly, winning over the most difficult people who may stand in their way of progress.

Taurus employees will only take so much patiently and happily before they feel they are being taken advantage of.

They will gladly accept orders and do whatever dirty work needs to get done, but they expect rewards.

They want material gain, salary increases, and the potential for more power.
To make your Taurus employees happy, be sure to give them projects through which they will see tangible results – hopefully something that will allow them to express their unique creativity in addition to their practical side.

They don’t want to feel mired in details for long periods of time. Make sure to schedule regular performance and salary reviews. This show of respect should keep them loyal to the company.

Gemini Employee Profile (may 21 – june 21)

Gemini employees can have difficulty concentrating on one thing for long periods of time.They have quick-moving minds and love to talk and communicate their ideas with others. They thrive on social interaction — even if their jobs don’t particularly support it. You’ll be able to find them wandering from desk to desk gossiping about all the sordid news in the office. They can be powerful persuaders in their speech and make ideal salespeople and mediators. They love to negotiate and can work out the best Deal for everyone involved. When properly stimulated, they can manage to keep their wandering mind focused and actually be quite productive. When they are bored, bogged down with mundane detail-work, or forced to work with people who they consider droll, they can become mean-spirited and gossipy. Their moods can fluctuate vastly day to day, as well as their productivity. It is really against t heir nature to be forced into an average workday schedule and environment. They are happier travelling. lf they are in an office they will need constant new stimulation. Most will be wanting advancement if they see this as a way to escape the limitations of their jobs. This can motivate them to put extra effort into their job. If you work with a Gemini, try to avoid getting into any debates with them they will surely win and it could end in some hard feelings on your part. They will need an accepting environment-one that supports their need for multi-tasking.  

Cancer Employee Profile (june 22 – july 21)

The Cancer employee isn’t at work to feed their ego — their job is just a job and a means to get paid. They work steadily and are usually very reliable. You’ll be able to depend on them to show up on time and do what is necessary. They won’t get involved in power struggles or get upset when someone advances before them.

They are able to accept the situation because they see it simply as a rung on the ladder up.Their motivation is security. They’ll want more money the longer they’ve stayed at a job.

They don’t want to have to worry about how they’ll make ends meet tomorrow so they’ll need a stable position without much risk. Cancerian workers can slip into some dark moods on occasion. During these periods productivity tends to drop-as well as everyone else’s in the office. Their moods can be so strong everyone becomes affected. To avoid the frequency of these occurrences, managers and co-workers should try to make the work environment as homey as possible-keep it well heated, cozy, and friendly.

Don’t press them to reveal their true inner thoughts-their tendency is to be secretive and protective, and they could see prying as an attempt to disturb their security.

Leo Employee Profile (july 22 – august 21)

Leo workers want to be first and at the center of the office. Even if they can’t lead, they’ll look for every opportunity to increase their own status and if someone else seems ahead of them, look out. They will make it clear that they aren’t happy by pouting and complaining.

They want advancement so much that they’ll take on more responsibility and carry a heavier load than anyone else does in the office. And they are self-promoters. It is likely that they are telling everyone in the office what a great job they are doing as well as giving everyone unwanted advice.


They know they are superior and want everyone to know it as well. This arrogance can sometimes cause problems when working with management. But typically, they are just hard workers out to demonstrate just how good they really are.

They thrive in sales positions – they can promote a product or company just as well as they promote themselves. Their strength and arrogance isn’t just show either.

In a crisis situation, Leos really demonstrate their true courage.

Leos want to lead and will be pushing for more responsibility and rewards.

They are happy to train and mentor new co- workers as they enjoy giving advice and being in positions of authority.

If you are trying to manage a Leo employee, you’ll need to give them plenty of praise, responsibility, and independence. They will certainly want to help lighten your load of management responsibilities.

Just be careful- the next thing you know they could be taking over your job.

Virgo Employee Profile (august 22 – september 22)

In the right situations Virgos love to work. They make ideal employees, happily working late into the night to make sure everything is perfect and in order. If you are looking for an employee who doesn’t mind starting from rock bottom in the most entry-level position at the company, hire a Virgo. They’ll have no complaints about the position being beneath them. They are CONTENT with basic, honest hard work. Their contentment isn’t always apparent, however.. They love to complain and worry. They are quick to criticize the way things are done around the office and are the first ones to grumble disapprovingly at what they consider to be extravagance or laziness. They are blunt and honest and don’t mince words over what they feel just isn’t right. Usually, this will be brought on by someone doing a half-baked job or not being considerate of other co-work ers. You’ll want to constantly reassure them, but this will do little to quell their anxieties. They actually enjoy worrying, and there is little you can do about it. Just give them a detail – oriented project and let them work alone on it. You won’t have to supervise a Virgo worker. They’ll check all the facts before getting started and catch their own errors when they are done. To keep a Virgo employee happy, you should also make sure their environment is orderly and calm. You should also provide small gestures of appreciation. They don’t need extravagance, just let them know you appreciate them in small ways that won’t embarrass them. They will probably just shrug their shoulders and say, “It’s no big deal.” But deep down inside they need these little reassurances.


Libra Employee Profile (september 23 – october 22)

Libra employees are detailed, dedicated workers with sensitive natures. Managers and co-workers sometimes find them difficult to get a handle on. They pick up the energy of the office and are unable to prevent it from affecting them. Loud noise, flashy colors, and discordant vibrations will put them off so much that they will have difficulty fulfilling their obligations at work.

One day they may seem like the most bright, hardworking, ambitious employee around. The next day they might be down, irritated, and unable to produce. Co-workers shouldn’t fret when Libra employees are in a dark mood. It really won’t last, as a happy state of mind can come over them just as quickly. When Libra employees are in a balanced frame of mind, they can be a powerful presence at work-they have a way of gracing everything they touch. Underneath that mess of moods, they really are basically happy and stable people. They are capable of profound logical thought and evaluate all sides of a situation before acting. They are one of the most intelligent Signs around. They are expert researchers and mediators. And their sensitivity to their environment makes them naturals at keeping things looking great. They will easily help others resolve conflicts and can act as a go-between with workers and management so that everyone ends up happy. If you want to keep your Libran worker smiling, give them the respect they are due and put them in a position where they can project their great charm and diplomacy. They won’t be CONTENT to take orders for very long, either- make sure they are given increased responsibility.

Scorpio Employee Profile (october 23 – november 21)

Scorpio employees usually exude a quiet self-confidence. They are self-sufficient and do not depend on others for a sense of self-worth. They keep their private life separate from work and take complete responsibility for their actions and their situation. They don’t make excuses; they just take care of business and expect everyone else to do the same. Those who don’t, co- workers and managers- will have to endure the Scorpio wrath. They don’t mind being completely vocal about what they feel is wrong with any given situation. And if you tread on their fire be sure to expect retaliation. They won’t take insults or opposition lying down. If you manage a Scorpio employee, be sure to follow through with your word and don’t break any promises-Scorpio is keeping track and building up some heavy resentments against you if you do. You may not even be aware of it until too late-but when Scorpio gets too m uch, you’ll be sure to know. Scorpio employees will react towards those around them exactly as they are treated. When they get what they want, they will be very accepting. If you are trying to work with or motivate a Scorpio co-worker, be sure to treat them respectfully and act professionally. Give them challenging work that allows them to utilize their awesome self-confidence and courage.

Sagittarius Employee Profile (november 22 – december 21)

The Sagittarian employee is head strong, cheerful, and willing to help. They exude self-confidence and take on tasks like there’s no tomorrow. They are willing to tackle even the toughest of projects as long as it is challenging and gets them out of the routine. Lucky for them, their shining personalities and honest enthusiasm seem like a bright spot in the office- otherwise co-workers might begin to build animosity towards someone so arrogant and extravagant. Their tendency to exaggerate and take on more then they can handle usually results in missed deadlines and dropping the ball-not because they are lazy of procrastinate, but because their enthusiasm just gets the better of them sometimes. Don’t let their nonchalance fool you-they really do care about what they are doing. They just have an easy-going attitude that allows them to keep on smiling even when they just messed up big time. Just because they are flexible and easy-going doesn’t mean they won’t tell you exactly how they feel-what is working for them and what isn’t. And they won’t just blindly take orders – they need to understand the method and reason behind the process. If you are trying to motivate your Sagittarian employee, be sure to feed them plenty of challenging new projects and hint that some business trips might be on the horizon once deadlines are met. And whatever you do, try not to question their intentions – it is the quickest way to make them upset. They aren’t capable of deceit.

Capricorn Employee Profile (december 22 – january 20)

A Capricorn employee with too much to do is a happy worker. They need plenty of projects and responsibility. There is no sadder sight than a Capricorn worker without a sense of responsibility. They need to be needed. They are covertly ambitious – usually not flashy or obvious about it-but you will usually know that they are serious and determined about advancing themselves. They are completely scrupulous, so much so that they can be self-disparaging. But they are no pushovers. They can wear down even the toughest customers. Their persistence is incredible. Once they set their sights on a goal, they work away at it until the bitter end-whether the goal be that hard sell or the new hardware release. Capricorns don’t work for free, however. They expect to be paid handsomely and be given more and more responsibility. They need to come out ahead of the pack in the end, and they see the work environment as their primary vehicle. They won’t go in for the typical office gossip and politics, though. They want to get down to business at work and see it as no place for fooling around. With a strong sense of duty and respect towards their superiors, it is rare they will join in on boss-bashing or knocking the system. They can get frustrated, however, with blue sky management schemes that lack common sense, and they will interject their dry sense of humor in the most critical ways. If they want change, they will be unyielding. If all their effort leads to naught the result will be deep moods of darkness and depression with a sense of hopelessness. Keep your Capricorn employee happy by paying them fairly and giving them plenty of hard work. Arrange for a path of advancement within your organization for them. If you don’t, you might find them looking for other opportunities.

Aquarius Employee Profile (january 21 – february 19)

The Aquarius employee can’t tolerate unfairness in the office. Hair brained schemes will get the positive attention they deserve if an Aquarian has anything to do with it. They’ll try to help everyone see the good side of a bad situation if it’s the last thing that they do. They are so smart-they can’t help but hold management in disdain if they feel that they are being unfair and unintelligent. It isn’t that they are overly ambitious and think they could be doing a better job- just that they think people in power should know better.

Most Aquarius workers are still looking for themselves and will want to try their hand at a variety of jobs in the workplace.

Whatever they are doing, they will do conscientiously. They usually have strict personal codes that include a strong work ethic. Their bright, off-beat intelligence, and trustwothiness will typically gain them many friends-in and out of work.

Beneath that sometimes odd-ball behavior is solid, concrete thinking and sensitivity to co-workers.

Keep your smart Aquarius co-worker happy by giving them plenty of opportunity to learn news kills.

Raises are less important to them. No amount of money will make it worth their while to stay in a stagnant position.

Don’t let them get too bored or they will simply find another job as easily as they found this one-their genius is easy to spot.

Pisces Employee Profile (february 20 – march 20)

The Pisces employee can be a loyal and hard-working, if unconventional, worker. In the right position, they are able to keep their daydreams in check and buckle down on the detail work-giving their all to the boss and corporation whom they feel are worthy of devotion. On the flip side, there is no image of extreme misery like that of an ill-placed Pisces worker. They will act as though their cubicle were a prison cell as they daydream of their own business or next vacation. Unhappy Pisces workers usually won’t stick around too long. Often Pisceans will drift from one job to another looking for that ideal environment to which they will be able to commit and feel a sense of purpose. And if things are going in a bad direction at the office, Pisces will be the first to sense it. They’d rather pick up and leave then wait until the problem reaches a head. Pisces are often misunderstood by their co-workers. Typically timid and introspective, they usually keep their true nature hidden, for fear it wouldn’t fit with the corporate culture.

What motivates a Pisces employee to not only stick around but also excel? Try compliments. And show them how their work impacts the entire organization. They need to know that what they are doing is worth something on a grander scale. Acceptance of their unconventional organization and planning will be necessary. Just because their sales report isn’t in the typical format doesn’t mean it is any less effective. Keep their environment bright and upbeat; and an after-work cocktail wouldn’t hurt.






Ctrl-Alt-Delete Your Life

Ah, the good old “Vulcan nerve pinch”, the three-fingered salute, the one-handed solution to many backhanded aggravations. How simple, how effective, how instantaneously gratifying to the mind behind the mouse.

Wouldn’t it be great if we could take the lessons learned from this simple three-point process into our lives and install them into our own hotkey set-up to help us deal with life’s little blue screens of death?

Well, we can, provided we are willing to use a little creativity, allow ourselves some literary leeway and don’t mind stretching an already strained metaphor until it squeals for mercy. Shall we begin?

First Key: Control

One of the most important things we need to remember about life is that we have the ability to assume and maintain control over about 98% of it. We can’t change our genetics (at least not yet, anyway). We can’t change our birth parentage. And we can’t change the occasional act of God that goes down in our vicinity. Other than that, it’s pretty much our show and how we manage in life is determined to a great degree on how willing we are to accept this reality and deal with it in a wise and responsible manner.

Of course, the flip side to having control is taking responsibility. If it’s not in your hands, then by default it’s not your fault if it doesn’t work out. That’s a powerful motivator for most people to keep their hands as far away from the keyboard of life as they can get them. It doesn’t always get them far, living that way, but at least they can always pretend like there was nothing they could do about it. Acknowledging your ability to determine your own fate is scary – and saddening, when you realize how much you lost holding back in the past. But the sooner you take control, the sooner your life gets back on track. So grab the mouse of self-determination and lets move on to the second key.

Second Key: Alternate

If there’s one cool thing about life and the great big Universe we live it in, it’s that there are always alternatives. Of course, sometimes we don’t like to see that because then we’d have to choose (see Control, above). But if you’re willing to stick your neck out a little bit, you might be surprised how far you can see over the bowed and huddled shoulders of those around you.

Among the thousands of alternatives we can choose from, we have options in how we behave, in how we believe, in how (or whether) we work and who we decide to love. We can choose to step away from generations-old prejudices and fears, turn away from unnecessarily narrow paths of advancement and set our sights on far flung shores of being that our companions are afraid to even consider reading about, let alone visiting. Hey, it’s not such a small world after all and you’ve got choices coming at you six ways from Sunday. What’s your next move?

Third Key: Delete

Sometimes we screw up. Sometimes we screw up big time. And sometimes we screw up so bad that we’re genuinely surprised when the smoke clears and the Universe hasn’t been vaporized into a cloud of sulphurous fumes. But that’s okay. Sulpher happens. What really matters is how you deal with it and how you let the experience affect you. If you carry it around on your conscience like a poorly written and bloated piece of malware that slows down every process you undertake, then life is pretty much going to suck for you for a very long time. Do it long enough and the bad code can get etched into your brain, flashing mental pop-ups at you at every turn telling you what a stupid, messed up idiot you are and sending up error messages every time you even consider trying to move up a notch or two on the evolutionary ladder. Bah, humbug.

Luckily, we have the power to delete bad files and overwrite bad code with sounder, more productive applications. Why stick with a program that’s not working for you? That’s what the virus cleaners in life, such as therapists, coaches and inspirational material of all sorts and sources, are for.

So scan your disk for errors, defragment your thinking and if all else fails, remember the power of three. The three keys to life, that is: Control, Alternate and Delete

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